Things You Might Not Know About Emotional Intelligence
What is EQ? Why is EQ important? How to get high EQ?
Emotional intelligence (short for EQ) is an index for emotional self-control. It involves five major areas:
- Self-awareness –knowing one’s emotions.
- Managing emotions – handing feels so they are appropriate.
- Motivation – marshalling emotions in service of a goal.
- Recognizing emotions in others – empathy, which is the fundamental people skill.
- Handling relationships – skill in managing emotions in others.
Take “self-awareness” for example. Emotional self-awareness is ongoing attention to one’s internal states, including emotions. If you become aware of your own emotions, you can evaluate them and use them to your advantage. This self-awareness is the foundation for managing emotions and being able to shake off a bad mood.
EQ contributes significantly to one’s professional success, education and happiness in marriage. People with high EQ tend to mingle with other people and seem to always receive support from many others. They are considerate of others’ feelings, recognize others’ emotions, radiate positive energy, have more friends, and are good at keeping close relationships.
A key part of improving EQ is management of others’ and your own emotions. Recognizing emotions and marking them correctly are the first steps toward higher EQ. Emotions are not simply good or bad. The following picture (quoted from http://weixin.niurenqushi.com/) gives you a general picture of emotions. Once an emotion occurs, recognize the zone of the emotion, identify it by name, and you’ll know how to respond to it. It’s better to keep in mind that when you speak or behave after identifying an emotion, make sure that what you say or do is worth more than when you don’t say or do anything.